ch1What Lakoff and Johnson Actually Proved About How People Think
In 1980, George Lakoff and Mark Johnson published Metaphors We Live By. The book made a claim that many people were not prepared to accept: the metaphors we use are not stylistic choices. They are the cognitive structures through which we understand reality itself. When someone says their business is stuck, they are not just speaking loosely. They are reasoning from a spatial metaphor in which progress is movement and no movement means no future. That metaphor determines what solutions they can even conceive of.
The research showed that abstract concepts, including time, causality, success, and relationships, have no direct sensory basis. People understand them through mappings from physical experience. Time is money. Arguments are battles. Life is a process. These are not poetic embellishments. They are the operating system. Change the metaphor in place and a person's capacity to act changes with it.
This finding had implications far beyond linguistics. If a person's concept of their own career is structured by a metaphor of climbing a fixed ladder, then missing one rung feels catastrophic and there is no language available for moving sideways, building a new structure, or choosing a different hill entirely. The limitation is not in the facts available to that person. The limitation is in the frame through which those facts are interpreted. Lakoff and Johnson gave the world a precise technical account of why two people with identical circumstances can reach opposite conclusions about what is possible.
The practical question their work raised was this: if a metaphor is the thing that needs to change, how does one actually change it in another person? Understanding that a metaphor is limiting is not the same as being free from it. A new frame has to take root at the level where the old one operates, which is below conscious deliberation. That gap between the intellectual insight and the lived shift is exactly where the science of trajectory change begins.
ch2How Telling a Truth in Many Ways Changes What a Person Can See
Raj ran a mid-size manufacturing firm in Pune. He had built it from twelve employees to one hundred and forty over nine years. By every external measure, he had succeeded. Yet when asked where the business was going in the next decade, he would describe maintenance, not expansion. The word he kept returning to was stability. His concept of what the business was structured his concept of what it can become.
The shift did not come from being told he was limiting himself. That kind of direct instruction lands in the conscious mind, is evaluated against existing beliefs, and is usually rejected or filed as an interesting thought that changes nothing. What worked instead was a sequence of observations, stories, and natural phenomena described over time, each of which carried the same underlying truth from a different angle. The truth was that what he had built was infrastructure for something much larger, not a destination. He heard this first through an account of how port cities develop. Then through the way a musical instrument reaches its full tonal range only after years of being played. Then through a description of how a specific company in his own industry had treated its second decade differently from its first.
None of those framings were about him directly. None required him to agree with a proposition about his business. What happened instead was that his unconscious mind, which had been mapping his business onto a fixed completion metaphor, began making contact with a different structure. The process Lakoff and Johnson described at the level of cognitive linguistics was operating in real time. A conceptual metaphor was being replaced not through argument but through accumulating isomorphic experience.
This is what it means to tell a truth in many ways until it starts working. The truth in this case was not new information. Raj already knew his revenue figures, his market position, and his operational capacity. The installation was of a new frame through which all that existing information organised itself into a different picture of the future. Once that frame was in place, he did not need to be persuaded to act differently. The actions followed from how he was now seeing.
ch3Living Metaphors and the Difference Between Understanding and Working
A distinction separates work that produces lasting change from work that produces temporary insight. Understanding is what happens when a person consciously grasps a new idea and can repeat it back accurately. Working is what happens when that idea begins generating different decisions, different responses to setbacks, and different perceptions of what is available in a given situation. The gap between the two is significant and many interventions never cross it.
A metaphor that works is not one the person can explain. It is one that has been absorbed into the structure of how they reason. The seed becoming a plant carries a truth about latency, sequencing, and the relationship between investment and outcome. A person can hear that metaphor once, nod, and move on. Or they can encounter that same truth through a story about a specific entrepreneur, then through an observation about how a particular skill develops, then through a description of how certain ecosystems regenerate after fire. At some point, if the metaphors are chosen well, the underlying pattern stops being a thought the person visits and starts being the lens through which they see.
Antano Solar John and Harini, working as Personal Evolution Scientists, identified three vehicles through which this kind of transfer happens. A story told well carries the truth in narrative form and allows the unconscious to map itself onto the characters and sequence. A description of a phenomenon in the natural or business world carries the truth in structural form and allows the pattern to be recognised without the resistance that personal application triggers. A living metaphor, which is the way a person operates in real time around someone else, carries the truth in embodied form and bypasses language entirely. The person simply experiences what a different frame feels like from the inside.
Choosing which vehicle to use, and when, requires accurate perception of where the person currently is. A metaphor that does not match the person's actual situation, even if it is structurally elegant, does not land. The intuition required is not mystical. It is built through close observation, through noticing what language a person uses to describe their own life, what spatial and physical metaphors appear in their speech, and what the structure of their existing frame actually is. The feedback is immediate. When the right metaphor is offered, something in the person's response changes. That signal is how the practitioner's intuition sharpens over time.
Key terms
Conceptual MetaphorA cognitive structure identified by Lakoff and Johnson in which one domain of experience is understood through the framework of another. These structures are not decorative. They determine what inferences, decisions, and possibilities a person can access within a given area of life.Isomorphic MappingA correspondence between two structures in which the relationships within one mirror the relationships within the other. In the context of metaphor and trajectory change, an isomorphic mapping occurs when a story or natural phenomenon carries the same underlying relational truth as a situation in the person's own life.Living MetaphorA form of communication in which the truth being transmitted is not stated in words but is embodied in how a person operates. The observer absorbs the frame through direct experience of what it looks like from the outside, bypassing the conscious evaluation that language triggers.FrameThe implicit conceptual structure through which incoming information is interpreted. Frames are largely invisible to the person holding them. Changing a frame does not require new facts. It requires the same facts to be encountered through a different organising structure until the new structure begins to operate automatically.Frequently asked questions
What did Lakoff and Johnson mean when they said metaphors structure thought?
Lakoff and Johnson showed that abstract concepts have no direct sensory basis and are therefore understood through mappings from physical experience. When someone says a business is stagnant, they are not using a metaphor loosely. They are reasoning from a spatial frame in which progress is movement. That frame determines what solutions are conceivable and what actions feel available.
Why does telling a truth once in a direct way rarely change how someone operates?
A truth stated once in a single framing enters conscious processing, where it is evaluated against the existing frame already in place. The existing frame usually wins because it has years of reinforcement behind it. The same truth told through multiple distinct vehicles, each one carrying the same underlying pattern, accumulates contact with the unconscious structure where the frame actually operates.
What is the difference between a metaphor that is understood and one that is working?
A metaphor that is understood can be repeated back accurately by the person who heard it. A metaphor that is working generates different decisions, different responses to setbacks, and a different sense of what is available. The test is not whether the person can explain it. The test is whether their actions over the following weeks and months reflect a genuinely different frame.
How does intuition factor into choosing the right metaphor for a person?
The metaphor that works for one person at a specific moment is not predictable from a formula. It requires a calibrated reading of where that person actually is: what language they use, what spatial structures appear in how they describe their situation, and what their existing frame is built around. When the guess is accurate, the person's response signals it. When it is not, that signal sharpens the next guess.
What is a living metaphor and how does it differ from a story or analogy?
A story or analogy transmits a pattern through language, which the person can then accept, evaluate, or set aside. A living metaphor transmits the same pattern through how someone operates in real time. The observer does not receive a proposition to consider. They experience what a different frame looks like from the outside, which allows the pattern to be absorbed without triggering the resistance that verbal statements often produce.
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You have a big enough vision and you have unconscious priority that encompasses all the other things. You naturally find ways to accelerate success, naturally find ways to launch legacy and naturally evolve your installation artistry. To me, installation is done by telling a truth in so many different ways, obviously without boring the person. I'd say in so many interestingly different ways until it starts working, until the truth starts working inside that person. Now there are people who do installations by telling a lie as well. We're not going to learn how to do that because we don't do that because there are some things where you can isomorphically map. So the installation relies on the unconscious mind associating with that story and saying this is about me. Now you can force fit that using anchors and so you can take something that's not true for a person and that's not true in reality and you can force that as a metaphor but we don't do that so that's a good thing. The type of metaphors that we teach people is and that is why the intuition that learns is very important because when you're doing installations you're making a guess of the person and if your metaphor works then you know that your intuition was right. If your metaphor doesn't work then you learn and your intuition gets better. I wanted to go back to that statement. So all installations mostly is done by stating a truth that the other person doesn't know in a variety of interesting ways until it starts working within them. We don't want them to understand it. We want that information to work within them and we're going to explore what are some ways of sharing a truth. A truth that you know that they don't know. Does that make sense to you? So you could state something by the way you live. It we call that as a living metaphor. You can state something by a story you tell. You could talk about like some of you heard about me say that you know the two horses and the chariot for parts integration. You can state a fact by describing some phenomenon in the world. You know how a seed becomes a plant and it bears fruit. Now you might be talking about the seed and becoming a plant and bearing fruit. They may be thinking about that investment in their business but you're talking about their business. You're but you're talking about the truth of a seed but that's the truth in their business too. Does that make sense to you? So not all metaphors have to be a story. Some metaphors can just be a description of things that happen in the world. It can be star wars or it can be cooking or you can talk about the perpetual watch that self-wines itself and make it into a metaphor. You can talk about astrophysics. You can talk about cleaning the floor. You can talk about sound systems. You can talk about anything as long as that person has some interest in the topic and you know enough about the topic and there is a mechanism in that topic that is an exact match to what the other person is trying to solve in their health or in their business or in their family and as long as you there is an exact match the unconscious go, ah this is what I didn't know. So you can do installations to develop a capability by saying the truth the information they don't know of how to develop the capability. You can do an installation to give them a strategy, an unconscious strategy. For example, filter installation is a strategy. You're telling the unconscious to systematically scan through certain type of memories and reject them, detect and reject. You could talk about the fact that something like that is possible by talking about filters. You can have a person in deep unconscious rapport with you and you can just describe how water filter works. You can say that there's natural filters on earth like when the raindrop comes it goes to soil and soil has like big big pores so like the big dirt is taken away and then it goes to the rocks. The rocks trap the smaller dirt and then it goes into more harder ground and when water passes through it it filters to size anything that is bigger than a particular size is is cleansed of the water. Now just the fact of describing that can install a filter if you had already set up the scope. Let's say you have children and those children and there's a continuous debate going on about bad friends and good friends and negative influence and bad influence. You could just get into unconscious rapport and talk about how the sunglasses work, how the sunlight is so good you can't live without it and you don't want the UV. So there is a way based on the wavelength there's a film that filters it out and you can talk about that and it might be an installation for that person about not picking up bad things from the friends. So installations is just telling a truth in an interesting way and sometimes in more than one way. I aim to do at least if it's an important installation I at least say it in 12 to 14 different ways the same thing but you're saying it in a way that consciously it doesn't feel like someone told you 14 times. But you have and I can take the same thing and I can say it a hundred times and I can use any topic to find a way to describe the ongoing mechanism and the shift that is required. So you're fundamentally just activating your ability to do cross-mapping which you're born with. You're born with a region in your brain that can look at the moon and for some of you looks like the face of a lady. It so happens and you could be poetic about it because it automatically happens and there is a part of the brain that's just that and you're already born with it. The important thing about installations is not the description it's not the story it's knowing that truth that information that that person doesn't know that if they knew unconsciously everything would be different in their behavior. So that's the key to installation. So a lot of things that you've been doing over here unconscious rapport, mirroring, change work all of these things starts giving you cues into how to intuitively understand what is going on with people you meet. What's in their map? What's in their mind? There are some people who want their change work done by someone really skilled. No problem with that. That's a nice thing but how does the person understand someone is skilled or not is by how many times you've come to up and how many years you've been doing that. Do you see the limitation in that? What? It has nothing to do with how many times a person comes to up. Some people start from like you know suicidal thoughts and their maybe third up is when they'll even start learning procedures. Some people already have met like thousands and ten thousands of people in their life. First up they are in like a different degree. Now do you see how that thinking can be limiting not here because whenever we do installations we don't pick anything that benefits the person here only. Do you see how that can be a limitation outside? How? The person is going to look at certificates instead of skill. The person is going to look at number of years instead of talent. And may miss out on geniuses, may miss out on unpolished diamonds, may miss out on rough diamonds and may really get fooled by people who have like big certificates and number of years to them. So they're looking at credentials not capabilities. So we said okay let's do installations for these people and not many of them there are only six or seven at least six or seven who have brought to attention then because how many of you think it's a big limitation? Yeah now remember when this has nothing to do with getting change work done. Nothing to do with it at all. We just that just happened to be where we spotted the problem. The problem has to do with paying attention to credentials more than capabilities. So we decided I think there were five people four or five and we decided let's do installations for all five of them. Guess what? Now whenever you do installation there's an external behavior. The external behavior here is one it's a fixed external behavior. So the external behavior for these five people is credentials which can include years, experience in years or certificate or a tag instead of capability. Okay so this is the external behavior. Now to do installations it's not enough if you know the external behavior you should also know what is the internal process through which that person creates this external behavior. Does that make sense to you? And I think that is a very very very very unique thing. That is why most times installations have to be personalized. You cannot do installations have to be personalized. You cannot do installations by just knowing their outward behavior or their outcome. Imagine the behavior is an outcome. What's the internal thinking? What's the internal process by which they arrive at this behavior? So you know you might be asking the internal behavior might be it's like what must be true. We discussed four people we discussed six people two people external behavior was the same similar but the internal behavior doesn't limit them outside of this arena so we dropped it. The other four people each of them had a very different internal process for the same external behavior. So now can you take the same story and do installations for each of them? Definitely not. You have to have four different stories. I think what's important for you is to know that the same problem someone who steals may have 10 different 10 people will have 10 different mechanisms that leads them to steal. If you know that you can tell a story or you can describe anything on planet earth that matches that reality and stop that behavior. So installations is fundamentally telling them a truth. I'll say installation is done by yeah installation is done by telling a truth in so many different ways until it starts working inside a person. Listen remember most people focus on how to do the installation. How do you tell the story? The stories are irrelevant because you can talk about any story. The story has to match the internal process of that particular behavior that you want to influence. The story itself is not the game changer. It's the story at the right time to the right person with the right influence. That's the game changing thing. So it has to come spontaneously. It has to come when it is important, when it is relevant. So most of what you're going to be learning as when you learn installations is how do you arrive at this. There is a truth. There is an information. There is something you know that the person doesn't. So now your challenge is very difficult because when we know something we think everybody knows it especially if it's obvious. So there was a time when I couldn't be on pitch and I couldn't be on rhythm because when I was very young I used to listen to music but I would say the words not sing it and I remember what I was driving in the car with a friend called Niranjan and we were driving and on our way back you know we had a lot of fun and we were driving back and we were listening to music on our way back to Chennai and there was a song going on and you know Niranjan was having what he calls deep conversations and then I suddenly had this curious very curious thought. I said Niranjan I always wondered how do you and others who sing remember that exact millisecond when to stop and when to start. He had the strangest look of his life. He said what are you talking about? I said every song each word and each phrase somehow whenever they sing it again then they seem to know that this is when they have to stop and this is how much force they have to give and this is when they have to start singing again. And then he laughed for a long time and he said it doesn't work like that and by the way I got kicked out of three music schools before that. I remember when I was in high school people would come to the class and sing because in school they don't really check before they take you in into anything so people would come into the class and sing who here can sing and I'll happily raise my hand so I'll go into the choir and after like like the first day second day it'll be like the first day second day it'll be like someone is going off pitch. So it happened three times that my choir teacher became very alert that that she started scanning if Antony was there. So then I would there was a guy called John Martin and he used to sit next to me and he wanted to learn programming so I would teach him programming and the bribe is I'll spend extra time and teach you programming but when the choir teacher is not there I'm in the choir. That was in high school and then I got you know it got over and now I'm in college I think when I was doing this trip with Dhrinjan. No then it was after college and now I'm like a CTO and at that time I even had somebody who took me as an experiment. There's like this very prominent musician called Dr. KS's like nine generations of you know they've been Viena players and very well renowned in the south of India. We were developing a tech platform for him and I said I want to learn to sing and he said I've made the deaf here. I mean so he had experiments where you know he would teach ragas to people who are deaf like they could stand near a speaker they can feel the vibrations and they could they could figure out what raga it is and he said I'll take you as an experiment. So this is just I think like one or two weeks before joining his experiment and I'm asking Dhrinjan how do you know the precise milliseconds because I figured out they're not counting seconds because they're stopping in between seconds so it was milliseconds and Dhrinjan said it doesn't work like that they count beats and then you know patiently good guy and during the drive he he made me listen to the beats and he said then he says it goes one two three four so for the I think I've done thousand hours of one two three four for the next five years you know so I go to a concert one two three four and I still used to be off beat and I used to think what's going on I'm counting right and then I go to super masters and Harini is singing and I'm modeling her and then for the first time my body is moving and it's going automatically and my hand is just matching the movement of my body so I come and tell Harini Harini you know what I think I found out that I think when people count the body first naturally dances and she had like the weirdest look she's like are you making fun of me and remember until I had discovered that nobody knew that I didn't know that the body moves when you listen to music and it it can be amplified to an external movement and the hand rhythm is an extension to it and I didn't know it and so as obvious as that is to everyone else it wasn't to me and when you're doing installations for people you're finding things that are that obvious to you but not to them so one of the things that John Grinder talks about when modeling geniuses is he says because according to him mirroring a genius and modeling a genius are two different things so Milton Erickson was a genius and he didn't know how he did what he did because he's a genius he was born that way in that art he was a genius and he would tell stories now Richard and John could not do what Milton could do so now they mirror Milton and whatever Milton does they would try to arrange the same clients in California like he works with people who have wheezing they'll mirror him and they'll fly back from Arizona to California and they'll do the same thing and they kept doing that for a while and then they got the skills of Milton so now they have two reference remember the first John and the first Richard had one reference unable to do Milton has one reference he knows how to do he doesn't know why others cannot do now the new version of John and Richard they have two reference they knew how they were earlier and they know how they are now they can compare between the lack of artistry and the genius artistry and then they can say this is the missing information this is the missing capability when you're doing installations you got to have both you got to know how do you arrive at that conclusion how do you do it so installations is also decoding yourself decoding other geniuses decoding things that work and decoding the people who are not able to do it and which part of this thing that you know do they not know and then the story now most people try to do this the reverse they try to think of the story first it doesn't work can you tell me the top 10 stories for installation no I can tell you for this particular person for this particular outcome what is that story there'll be a game changer now you know what's the most fascinating thing you can do all of the things that I spoke to you about in a blink of an eye in a second without having to analyze or think about it that's how marvelously we're created as humans just for you to take a step forward when you walk there are over 10 000 muscle clusters that have to coordinate together at the same time and all movement is going off balance and finding balance so when you think you're actually taking a step forward most times you're actually going off balance micro and then the in for a computer program it's about 10 million computations per second for every simple move that happens and that's why until recently and even now they don't have anything that can as versatile as humans walk and move in any terrain it's a very complex mechanism but you do it so effortlessly I just remember you know there was this eagle that had fallen in my garden and one of her and his friends her name was nina she came and offered to take care of it because these eagles have like these big wings although these are baby eagles you know the crows are trying to hit it you need to know how to like hold them properly so I called her and she came and she was taking care of it she was with the wildlife sanctuary and this particular eagle I think must have been three days or something and they said it's going to take 10 days before it can fly so we were thinking okay every day we have to feed it and and you know this eagle would try to jump and when it jumps it would flaps its its feathers and and then it falls down and this kept happening for the first day and the second day and then towards the evening of the second day we were feeding and and the eagle was eating and out of nowhere a crow came and it came so fast it was almost like sweeping down on it you know like really hard and the eagle just jumped and and you could live watch it you know it's like the eagle is here the crow is here and it's like it's like when you see these Hollywood movies and they show you this fast-paced action and you're literally seeing like a bird come that fast and then the eagle jumps and and and the eagle is going down at only at the rate and speed at which gravity is pulling in the crow is inching on speed and suddenly the eagle flies six days before it could have otherwise flown and I was thinking to myself that's just a bird how much more superior is the human neurology and when you think about it this way I think all of the things that I have been demonstrating and showing you no matter how complex it looks there's the circuitry the mechanisms already so marvelously and beautifully packed into your neurology and when you 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